The auto-love teaches in them: Joining in them to we ourselves and becoming them only. To search the support in us. In the terms as reference. To believe, to respect and to trust we ourselves. Not to depend on the approval of the others. To have conscience and to respect our values. To respect our limits. To express our feelings without fears. New York Museums contributes greatly to this topic.
To feel capable and competent to face any challenge. To assume the responsibility of our interior and exterior world. Not to confuse auto-love, to have an attitude of auto-respect, fondness what it is good for itself, to assume what if it is, without illusion and disrespecting itself and to the other, with selfishness (pride, vanity, mimo, egoism) that they are attitudes that cause a false one auto-esteem. The people who thus act, have an attitude of wanting optimum for itself, in detriment of itself and of the others. Without the force of the auto-love we place in them in an indifference state, are other people’s to we ourselves, in a obsessive-compulsory state, being incapable of exempting in them of thoughts and behaviors irrationals and nonsenses that only take in them and keep in them in suffering; becoming us puppets of the circumstances, the people and our illusions, without the minimum autonomy to direct our proper lives. We lose the right to be authors and actors of our choices.
Without the force auto-love we submit in them to any type of relation. We lose our auto-support, our auto-they esteem and ours capacity to judge, we compel in, to accept them the dependence, pain, the suffering as a form of being and having something or somebody; becoming us dependent of this form of being, instead of conquering what we are, we torture in them to conquer an illusion. It is not made a mistake to be what one is. We came to grow and it does not stop criticizing in them.